The Man To Marry

Before the ring, before the day,
Watch how he lives, not just what he'll say.
Fine words are easy, let actions show,
Give yourself time to really know.

Marry a man who is faithful,
Whose yes is steady and true.
Who honours the bond you have chosen,
And keeps his commitment to you.
No secret romance in the shadows,
No keeping you lost in a game.
His love doesn't change with the audience,
In private and public, the same.

That's the man, the man to marry,
A love with more than words to carry.
Not just a wedding, a life to share,
A faithful heart and steady care.
Ìwà rere, let it show,
Take your time and get to know.
Before the ring, before “I do,”
See how his choices honour you.

Marry a man who is honest,
Who tells you the truth without force.
Who owns a mistake when he's made one,
And takes real steps to change course.
Ask about money and family,
Ask what he wants from his life.
You need the truth while you're choosing,
Not a surprise as his wife.

Marry a man who is gentle,
Who hears you when you say no.
Who speaks with respect when he's angry,
And gives you the freedom to grow.
Watch how he treats other people,
The waiter, the stranger, the weak.
Kindness is more than a present,
It's there in the words that we speak.

That's the man, the man to marry,
A love with more than words to carry.
Not just a wedding, a life to share,
A faithful heart and steady care.
Ìwà rere, let it show,
Take your time and get to know.
Before the ring, before “I do,”
See how his choices honour you.

Marry a man who's responsible,
Not simply a man who has wealth.
Who works with the strength he is given,
And learns how to care for himself.
You can begin with a little,
With plans you can both understand.
But building a home takes commitment,
Not leaving it all in your hands.

Marry a man who is humble,
Who knows he has something to learn.
Who listens when someone corrects him,
And gives you the space for your turn.
“I was wrong” won't make him smaller,
“I'm sorry” must show in his ways.
Don't marry a promise of changing,
Watch what he does through the days.

Marry a man who loves Jesus,
Whose faith reaches into his days.
Who practises mercy and justice,
Beyond all the songs that he plays.
Who prays with you, never controls you,
Or uses God's name to demand.
Who honours the gifts God has given,
And cheers as your own dreams expand.

And as you choose, look inward too,
Let those same good things grow in you.
Let truth and kindness start with you,
No perfect person, but love that's true.

That's the man, the man to marry,
A love with more than words to carry.
Not just a wedding, a life to share,
A faithful heart and steady care.
Ìwà rere, let it show,
Take your time and get to know.
Before the ring, before “I do,”
See how his choices honour you.